Sun, 15 Dec 2013 19:30:05 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131215/BLOGS/312159972/-1/blogs01Parents often remind their kids to mind their manners, but that just doesn't seem to help. That's because we need to teach manners each day, with every opportunity. That doesn't mean nag all day long, it means decide what it is that is important to you, and teach it in a way that your child will learn. Do you want him to make eye contact while shaking hands when introduced? Do you wish she'd use a napkin, chew with her mouth closed and swallow before speaking with a mouth full of food? These [...]]]>Literal thinkers or teachers for life?
Tue, 10 Dec 2013 13:48:10 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131210/BLOGS/312109992/-1/blogs01I'm sure that most of you have heard the expression, "Spare the rod, spoil the child", and have your own opinions on that statement. Must "the rod" literally have to be a switch from the back yard, or a paddle hanging over the mantle as a continuous unspoken threat? I'd like to take you to a different place with that. I'd like to introduce the thought that the rod can be an extension of a loving parent, who has the ability to reach and teach with patience, care and empathy. I received a [...]]]>Giving with Gratitude
Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:53:26 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131203/BLOGS/312039991/-1/blogs01We all have so much for which to be grateful. Even if we are currently under the weather, or experiencing difficult financial times, there is always someone else who is experiencing even a deeper level of devastation. If I am tired, I think how fortunate I am for my warm bed to go home to. When I feel that I've put too much on my plate, with too much work, I express gratitude that I have a plate, and a career that I love waking up to. For the past 12 years, I continue my fulfilling [...]]]>Raising a Reader
Sun, 24 Nov 2013 20:04:53 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131124/BLOGS/311249974/-1/blogs01It's so easy to nurture a love for reading while your child is young. However, as children grow, some loose interest in books, so stick with it, become creative and follow some of these ideas for emergent or resistant readers:
*Be a diabolical reader; talk through the story rather than read it, as your child follows or draws the pictures. *Create a personalized family photo album with family names captioned. *Use puppets, dolls and stuffed animals to tell the story or join you for [...]]]>My mother, my teacher
Sun, 17 Nov 2013 22:04:01 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131117/BLOGS/311179972/-1/blogs01Parents are the most important teachers a child will ever have. Children learn what we teach them and they do what we do. Running a household with laundry, bills, grocery shopping and meal prep can be a full time job for some, while others choose to include their children in life's daily lessons, adding academics and core standards as they homeschool. Read how one mom manages to provide an accelerated learning environment at home, while giving her children a rich, individualized education. [...]]]>Family Feuds
Sun, 10 Nov 2013 23:47:56 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131111/BLOGS/311119999/-1/blogs01It can be a tricky business when your child comes home with hurt feelings from a cousin or other family member. While nobody wants to start a family feud, it is especially important for relatives to learn how to communicate with each other to resolve conflicts. Family is so important, and those who enjoy a close relationship know what a gift that is. When issues aren't calmly addressed soon after the event, hurt feelings become deep wounds, which are difficult to heal. It's important to [...]]]>Taming the monster
Wed, 06 Nov 2013 12:15:06 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131106/BLOGS/311069986/-1/blogs01So often when children misbehave or are disrespectful, parents just don't know what to do. When yelling, spankings, grounding or time-outs don't change the behavior try logical and natural consequences instead. Those are the ones that make sense, and teach the lesson. Those are also often the toughest to come up with when we are frustrated or angry. Think of specific situations that have happened, and how you might have handled them differently or more effectively. Once you begin to use [...]]]>Logical consequences that teach
Mon, 28 Oct 2013 12:46:48 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131028/BLOGS/310289988/-1/blogs01Do you have a tough time thinking of what to do when your children misbehave? Do you take away television privileges or send them off to their room? The real question is, are those punishments actually teaching a lesson and a different behavior? If your kids continue to do the same things, over and over, without learning from being grounded or having toys taken away, start teaching with logical consequences. Logical consequences are those that have an action directly linked to the behavior. [...]]]>Aprons all around!
Mon, 21 Oct 2013 13:08:29 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131021/BLOGS/310219989/-1/blogs01Teaching in the kitchen is a fun, relaxing way to reinforce math and reading skills. Include your toddler or teen with daily food prep, or choose one day out of the week for family participation with prep. Even toddlers can sit safely at the table and snap off the ends of string beans or open boxes and pour dry foods into bowls. Starting kids young in the kitchen will build their sense of confidence, while reinforcing a wide variety of skills, including listening carefully and following [...]]]>When in doubt, check it out
Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:40:24 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131015/BLOGS/310159989/-1/blogs01Children develop a variety of different skills at different times. Girls usually develop language sooner than boys, who often develop large motor skills sooner than girls. And so it goes, when trying to figure out what's normal and what's not. If you are concerned with social or developmental delays, your first stop is to ask your pediatrician about milestone marks. However, some pediatricians may express concern while others may prompt you to "wait and see." I say follow your heart. In many [...]]]>Single Parenting
Mon, 07 Oct 2013 12:23:37 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20131007/BLOGS/310079988/-1/blogs01Whether you're married, partnered or single, it's time to let go of the resentments and parent with your child's best interests in mind. You cannot raise an emotionally healthy, stable child if you parent without structure and limits but fall back on resentments, caustic accusations and blame. Intentionally pull the plug on high stress situations, set guidelines upon which you decide to raise your children and be the best parent for an amazing outcome. Read the full article, When allergies impact the party
Mon, 30 Sep 2013 19:52:52 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130930/BLOGS/309309943/-1/blogs01More and more children are affected each day by severe food allergies. Managing those allergies to keep your child safe can be a challenge, especially at birthday parties, where candy, cakes, pretzels and chips are served, and are loaded with nuts and gluten. So, how do you safely send your child to a party where dangers lurk in every bite? Read http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130923/BLOGS/309239944/-1/blogs01
Adolescence can be a difficult period for everyone. Communication is an important piece, as teens tend to become less interested in sharing both their thoughts and their time with family. Teens think of themselves as capable young adults, but lose sight of the fact that their immaturity or poor judgement may affect their future success. Be prepared and stay connected. Read This Mom’s Memories
Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:38:55 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130916/BLOGS/309169985/-1/blogs01Being a single mom and living only miles from New York City on September 11 brought emotions of both fear and determination. As our entire country was torn apart within moments, I felt helpless but determined to protect my three children at any cost. Read “Be prepared, but don’t live in perpetual fear”.
More than Live, Laugh and Love
Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:03:38 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130909/BLOGS/309099990/-1/blogs01Being a parent is a 24/7 job that can, at times, be exhausting as well as frustrating. Let go of the negative cycles and infuse nine L's into each day to build a stronger bond and raise a thoughtful child. Read the entire article “Live, laugh and love”.
What should you do if you see a child bullying your child?
What should you do if you see a child bullying your child, with that child's parent in close proximity?
What should you do if your own child is coming on too strong, and is hurtful or even bullying another child?
These and other questions are addressed in my syndicated column http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130805/BLOGS/308059991/-1/blogs01
Kids are typically so carefree and have very little idea about their surroundings, unless they are taught. Teaching doesn't have to come from a book, and most times the lessons are more easily learned when they are from direct experiences. Start with a civic lesson and a map, so relationships to states and counties and cities become visual. Visit historical sites in your area that will spark further interest in your town. Read about these and other ideas to build a sense of community and [...]]]>Whose team are you on?
Tue, 30 Jul 2013 17:11:18 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130730/BLOGS/307309966/-1/blogs01Children of divorce or a strained marriage can become just as stressed as their parents. They take blame when they have none, and try to please both sides without taking sides. Children in the middle struggle emotionally and sometimes academically as they fight to find their place in a broken home. Read more in “Divorces can [...]]]>Too old for therapy?
Tue, 23 Jul 2013 22:13:17 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130723/BLOGS/307239990/-1/blogs01A mom of a young teen wrote to ask what kind of help might be available for her son. She explained that he had been diagnosed as a toddler with Sensory Processing Disorder, and that therapy and home activities seemed to help so much that he was discharged from therapy. The problem is that he continues to struggle with SPD, as it never really goes away. Those who are hyper or hypo sensitive to noise, touch, clothing, taste, smell, motion, water or food taste, texture or temperature are [...]]]>Zero tolerance for sarcasm
Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:13:27 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130715/BLOGS/307159991/-1/blogs01Say what you mean and mean what you say, but don't say it mean! Many people use sarcasm to express the exact opposite of that they mean. It is common to hear remarks such as, "Glad you could make it on time", to someone who arrives late, or "Oh, that's real nice, to hit your sister like that!" Neither statement is the truth, and both are sarcastic. Sarcasm is now viewed as the simplest form of bullying, because it makes fun of the other person, or is meant to make them uncomfortable in an [...]]]>Raise a flag and raise a patriot!
Wed, 10 Jul 2013 09:15:07 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130710/BLOGS/307109923/-1/blogs01On our country's birthday this year, I played a patriotic CD with songs such as "You're a grand old flag", "America the beautiful", and many others. I sang along with every word as my daughter marveled. She actually asked how I knew the words to each patriotic song on that CD, and I replied that when I was in kindergarten we learned them all. We pledged to the flag each morning, and chose a meaningful, patriotic song to start off the school day. It is unfortunate that today's children don't [...]]]>How to help your teen get help
Mon, 01 Jul 2013 00:17:42 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130701/BLOGS/307019931/-1/blogs01So many teens truly struggle through their adolescence. Sometimes it's more than they can manage because their inner turmoil is more then they can emotionally understand. Teens rebel by shutting down, sleeping in, slacking off on their responsibilities, dropping grades in school, being rude and disrespectful, and the list goes on. Many teens have small moments like this, while others seem to live this way every day, suffering day in and day out. If your teen is on the road to destruction, [...]]]>Who’s this teenager in my house?
Mon, 24 Jun 2013 11:13:19 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130624/BLOGS/306249935/-1/blogs01Raising children through their adolescent years can be a struggle for the parents, as well as for their teen. Teens truly believe that they are fully mature and can handle any responsibility. They hone their negotiation skills and debate their point until victory is achieved. Some teens do exhibit good, common sense, and associate themselves with levelheaded friends who also use good judgement. Most, however, have an unrealistic sense of infallibility. They are impulsive and inconsiderate, [...]]]>Parenting on the same page
Mon, 10 Jun 2013 09:23:56 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130610/BLOGS/306109932/-1/blogs01So many times parents struggle when their spouse handles a situation differently than (s)he would. Sometimes one parent will step in, tell the child they don't need to listen to the other parent, undermining authority completely. That is never is any child's best interest, no matter what. When you disagree with your spouse, agree to disagree at another time, when the kids aren't around. Arguing in front of children is unsettling and allows for unnecessary manipulation and disrespect. Read [...]]]>What to do when your kids run off into the parking lot
Mon, 03 Jun 2013 02:13:39 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130603/BLOGS/306039935/-1/blogs01There's an age-old problem of children running off into the street. If you run after them, they think it's a game. If you call out after them to STOP, they may hesitate, but usually continue running. Where danger is concerned, there's no time for games. Read how one mom with four children handled the two who ran ahead. Read how to teach outside the event to keep your child safe. Read the entire article http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130529/BLOGS/305299943/-1/blogs01
Some children scream or shriek loudly and often throughout the day. Telling a child to use an inside voice won't change the behavior. Yelling at your child won't stop his yelling either. Determine when the screaming usually occurs and track down triggers. If it happens any time throughout the day whenever your child doesn't get his way, then probably the screaming is behavioral and can be managed with redirection a careful behavior plan that everyone follows. If, however, your child screams [...]]]>Eight Top Tips for Tough Situations
Mon, 20 May 2013 19:13:32 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130520/BLOGS/305209898/-1/blogs01Do you dread certain situations when you just know that your child won't do as you say? Are there times when you ask, tell then yell before giving up? Do some days seem longer than others when your child seems to have super powers, controlling the entire household? Become empowered as you take control in a calm, loving manner. Read about the simple, effective teaching tips which will improve any situation in http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130513/BLOGS/305139916/-1/blogs01
How many times have you walked around the house picking up what your child leaves behind? Kids "drop and go" on a regular basis, leaving parents frustrated, and when reminders don't work, the nagging begins. Nagging turns into yelling, and then come the threats of "If you don't clean this up I'm throwing it all away!" Sound familiar at all? Change the negative dynamic and use a positive approach to teach your child how to become responsible. Read how one family supported their eight-year-old [...]]]>Gifts for Mom
Mon, 06 May 2013 05:15:59 +0000http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130506/BLOGS/305069917/-1/blogs01Being a mom is a full time 24-7 responsibility. How our kids behave and what they achieve seems to be a direct reflection of us, their Mom. Moms need time to restore themselves, so they can be calm during a crisis . Moms need a steel coat of armor and a tool bag of supplies, just like a medical doctor, a plumber or an electrician. For ideas on how to fill your tool bag read my full article http://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130429/BLOGS/304299911/-1/blogs01
When parents divorce it is both difficult, yet critical to ensure that the children are emotionally stable. Many children believe they are the cause or have some part in their parent's divorce, while others believe they have the power to reunite them. When parents divorce, extreme stress permeates through the entire family. Extended family takes sides, friends disappear and the children feel the impact, often withdrawing. Parents, who put their children first, above retaliation and anger, [...]]]>When Someone Close Dies
Mon, 04 Feb 2013 11:10:28 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130204/BLOGS/302049992/-1/blogs01Preparing a child for the passing of a loved one can be difficult, especially if emotions are high among family members. Children tend to follow the lead of the beloved adults in their lives, so thoughtful reassurance with a brief, positive explanation is often well received. Sadly, children can easily misunderstand and or misinterpret information as well as conversations, which can lead them to develop irrational fears of becoming [...]]]>Connecting on the Couch
Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:06:49 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130201/BLOGS/302019955/-1/blogs01Cold winter grey days seem like the perfect time to curl up on the couch under a big puffy comforter. Invite your child to join you as you look through family albums and baby books, telling stories from years gone by. This is a wonderful opportunity for your child to hear about some familytraditions and legacies. When you [...]]]>Four Against One
Wed, 30 Jan 2013 17:06:48 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130130/BLOGS/301309984/-1/blogs01Do you ever feel outnumbered by your children? Sometimes it seems that just as you get one child settled,another finds a button to push and the chaos continues. There are so many opportunities for parents to reach and teach children so they are able to behave well and learn as they grow. Negative cycles can occur when parents feel out numbered or out of control. Take control with a few simple changes that require only minimal effort and produce impressive results. Don’t be that parent [...]]]>The Voice of Reason
Mon, 14 Jan 2013 13:19:31 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130114/BLOGS/301149930/-1/blogs01Did you ever try to reason with your child? How well did that work? Are you a yeller or do you use threats to take away toys and privileges? Do you bribe or negotiate with your child? Is punishing and spanking part of your parenting style? If so, has it improved your child’s behavior? Recent clinical research shows that reasoning, bribing, yelling and spanking cannot change any behavior, because none of those actions teach the desired behavior. As parents, we need to teach what we do [...]]]>Healthy, Happy Kids
Mon, 07 Jan 2013 17:15:32 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130107/BLOGS/301079961/-1/blogs01When a woman first learns that she is blessed with a pregnancy, most often her biggest hope is that she will deliver a healthy baby. There is a saying, "If you have your health, you have everything." So true. No one enjoys being sick. I look around and see so many young children who are already clinically obese. My heart breaks for them. I think of their already difficult lives and the life they will lead as an obese, unhealthy adult. Nothing good comes of childhood obesity. Although some [...]]]>Alphabet of Attributes
Tue, 01 Jan 2013 11:15:37 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20130101/BLOGS/301019994/-1/blogs01As we ring in the new year, hope, happiness and optimism fill our hearts. Every new year seems to be filled with opportunity for fresh starts and new beginnings. Fill yours with your presence when your child is present. Look for the wonderful things your child does and says throughout each of the 365 days this year. As a mom of three grown children, I have learned how so many special moments can be overlooked while dealing with the daily stresses of life. Look for those times when your child [...]]]>Setting a calm pace for Christmas
Mon, 24 Dec 2012 11:20:37 +0000adminhttp://www.waynesvilledailyguide.com/article/20121224/BLOGS/312249991/-1/blogs01Christmas time is such an exciting time for children, but exhaustion and overstimulation can contribute to unexpected meltdowns. Try a new family tradition for Christmas morning which will keep your child in bed longer, rather than waking early to see what Santa brought. Help your child by setting a calm pace for the day, and be prepared with quiet activities such as frosting prepackaged gingerbread men cookies. Several quiet [...]]]>