Amy, pictured alongside her husband Andrew and son William, volunteered to carry the child of another family, giving them an chance to raise a child that wouldn’t have otherwise been born.
Amy Bryant is a stay-at-home mom who spends her day taking care of her son William, tending to his various emotional and physical needs while her husband Andrew works as a guard at Fort Leonard Wood. And hopefully within the next two months, she’ll be adding to her daily responsibilities by helping another family obtain a child of their own.
Amy volunteered to become a surrogate mother for a family after seeing her friend go through the process, and the joy the family had when holding a baby they weren’t able to create themselves. When the same couple said they wanted to have another child, Amy stepped up to take on the role of surrogate.
“Seeing their faces and seeing them have a baby they couldn’t have had on their own is amazing,” said Amy, talking about her motivation for following in her friend’s footsteps. “They’re just really sweet people.”
Right now, Amy is working with the family to plan everything that goes into holding a growing child for another family, on top of what mothers must consider for a normal pregnancy.
“It’s a little stressful at first,” Amy admitted. “You have to do the shots, the transplant, the mock transfer. It’s a lot of appointments. Right now it’s getting everything in line.”
Amy added that one of the most important factors in this planning stage, is building the relationship and trust between her and the family, as she prepares to receive a child she will eventually have to return. She said the process of having someone else carry your child can be stressful on both ends.
“I think I’d go through the same thing, having a surrogate carry my kid,” she said. “You don’t get to be there the whole time when the baby is kicking. It’s a different experience.” Amy added she hopes to see a long-term friendship with the family develops.
“We’re joining their family and they’re joining ours,” she said.
As Amy and the family journeys together through this slow process, she looks forward to seeing how carrying another child will affect her own life.
“We have a little guy and we’ve considered having another kid, but I never know when he’s going to be in the hospital,” she said. Her son William, suffers from a genetic diseases known as pontocerebellar hypoplasia (PCH). Over six types of PCH have been identified over the years, which are usually associated with mental and motor disabilities.
“This will also give me the opportunity to see what it’s like to carry a kid while taking care of him,” said Amy.
According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about 6% of married women up to age 44 in the United States are unable to get pregnant after a year of trying, and approximately 12% of the same group have difficulty carrying a pregnancy to term. The CDC reported that although artificial methods of reproducing are expensive and time-consuming, they have given many couples the ability to have children that wouldn’t otherwise be born.
“If for some reason I couldn’t have my own kid, I would want someone to step up and say, let me help,” said Amy. “It’s really hard, you have parents who have kids and don’t want them, then you have people who can’t have kids, and really want them.”
Amy said they will hopefully be making the embryo transplant in September, after she and the family have finalized all their planning.